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UNCONDITIONAL LOVE


As a civilization as humans we have a lot, if not most, of our problems in our relationships. Considering the number of broken hearts in relationships, the number of depressions and stress caused by bad relationships in society, the number of suicides because many people can no longer bear the pressure, the number of people resorting to legal and illegal drugs as a escape into their own world, and not to mention all the aggressive acts and wars that all originate from bad relationships driven by the ego, which wants power and dominance. Given all of this, we must admit that we do not excel in this area and we still have a lot to learn, but we learn very slowly through difficult experiences that repeat until we conquer the point, and then we can live a better life with more mutual love.


Spiritual leaders often mention unconditional or divine love, which should serve as an example to us in life. The question, however, is whether we even know what unconditional love means. An even bigger question is whether we dare to look at what unconditional love actually means.


Now you might be wondering why you shouldn't dare. That's because the deeper meaning of unconditional love undermines the way most, if not all, current relationships are structured or learned within today's system. Why does it undermine them? Because the majority of relationships or love, as we call them, are conditional. So if each of us takes a closer look at our relationships with the people around us, those closest to us and those not so close, we will notice that often, when someone does something we don't like or something that, according to our theory, harms us, love starts to dwindle in that moment, and anger, sadness, jealousy, and envy surface. If we dig deeper into the "hornet's nest," even in the case where at some point our partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife no longer wants to be in an intimate relationship with us or has met someone with whom they have better compatibility and are driven towards another person, the love as we currently know it ends, and we return to anger, sadness, and jealousy. Why aren't we capable of loving and caring in such situations? Unconditional love does not end even in such moments, but it continues to love and grants pure unconditional freedom to each individual. Naturally, we find it difficult to comprehend the depth of such love because we have been embedded and conditioned in a system of conditional love since childhood. If you are well-behaved, obedient, your parents and teachers will love you. If you fit within the system's framework, you please others, become popular, and they love you. If you don't, we come back to the anger of parents, teachers, and more or less everyone around us, who constantly confine us within the system until we ultimately surrender to it. On the other hand, we should first remember who we truly are and become aware of the karmic connections and laws that shape a significant part of each individual's life. This would enable us to better understand the moments when conditional love fails and is replaced by lower emotions. The path to unconditional love is anything but easy, yet it is essential for us to create a positively loving and mentally healthier environment as a civilization. Surely, we should devote much more attention to this topic than we currently do. By doing so, we would spare ourselves many horrors and lower emotions that are far from pleasant. However, we must realize that we inevitably/forcibly learn through these lower emotions, and until we have mastered the lesson, these lower emotions will be present throughout. In order to free ourselves from lower emotions or at least reduce them, we must ask ourselves what we are doing wrong to allow their emergence or what we need to change within ourselves so that they no longer arise. What do I need to become aware of? Which new things do I need to learn? What do I need to learn anew?


Why is this such an important topic that most people are not yet capable of looking at from a different perspective and trying to understand the true meaning of unconditional love? Imagine if everyone or the majority of people around you (family, friends, colleagues, teachers...) loved you unconditionally – how would that feel? How would it feel to be loved by everyone or the majority of people regardless of any mistakes you make? What would it feel like if lower emotions were not present or only minimally present even when you make mistakes? What kind of world would it be if we knew how to love unconditionally? If you closed your eyes for a moment and envisioned a world with such relationships while contemplating these questions, you probably got a glimpse of the promised land or heaven. Now you might say that it is impossible to achieve and what difference would it make if only I change. But realize that the more we talk about such things, the more we raise awareness, the more thought-provoking questions arise in people, and some may start thinking differently. Together, we can enrich society with love and better interpersonal relationships.


When we examine the established norms in society and our system, which are part of our daily lives, from a different perspective and dare to challenge certain views, including those imposed by religions, we can learn something new, gain another dimension, and expand our horizons. In those moments happendsthat we discover how much we truly do not know, as Marjan Ogorevc once said in one of his books, "In reality, we don't even know what we don't know yet."


Klemen Ivancic

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